I had a great afternoon with a friend, sitting on a bench, enjoying one of the last sunny afternoons of the year (unfortunately). We were talking about things we´d like to achieve, how we´d like certain things to work out, what would make us even happier than we already are.I remember hearing people say "Be careful with what you wish for". I never quite understood it, but coming to a closing of our third decade in this world, we started discussing this with my friend. And seem to have finally got the message of the statement.
When our wishes come true (when you get your dream job, when you receive a reward, when people give you the attention you want, etc.) it turns out that even this dream situation has its downsides and you are not as happy as you thought you´d be once you wish came true. When you get there, you see that no situation is perfect. And that you can always wish for more, for better (human greed?).
This seems to be a lesson that everyone has to learn for themselves, everyone needs to achieve and see how it´s really not like what we thought it would be. It is a life long process of wishing, achieving and getting disappointed. It is also helpful on the personal journey of learning how to appreciate what we have. Of making the most of the current situation instead of constantly planning a more glamorous future.
At the same time, I personally find it important to avoid getting comfortable with a mediocre situation and to stop working on my personal development, sharper yet more harmonious self-definition. It´s an exciting process to learn to appreciate the presence and working towards improving it from within.
Wishes are good, but we need to learn that nothing is ever perfect, only I can work on myself to appreciate what is given.
